We are attached to our lovers, our children, our roles, our possessions and our ideas. How do we maintain an open handed approach to life? Through the practice of Aparigraha (non possessiveness), one of the five yamas of yoga, we can release our suffering related to clinging. If you cling to something you are sure to create suffering. Having an open handed approach to life allows us to appreciate what we have and to let it go when the time comes. The only certainty is impermanence.
2.39 When one is steadfast in non-possessiveness or non-grasping with the senses (aparigraha), there arises knowledge of the why and wherefore of past and future incarnations.
(aparigraha sthairye janma kathanta sambhodha)
The Bhagavad Gita tells us to Release everything, do your work and let go of expectation or desire for a certain outcome. Do so passionately, with love and fully involved.
Krishnamurti says “here is only attachment; there is no such thing as detachment. The mind invents detachment as a reaction to the pain of attachment.”